The interaction dynamics of love between two people, on this earth, are universal and immutable. One person that loves another, and wishes it in return, approaches that person and in some manner and in some degree expresses it. That person then freely returns an expression of interest, or expresses otherwise. There is no other way that the love of another person, on this earth, is worthy or has power.
The character and plot in the second Kate Blanchett ‘Elizabeth’ depicts this immutable law. Able to command an empire and all within it, the queen is unable to command the affection of Drake. All powerful in all other aspects but one, the queen is untouchable in all other realms of life in England but one. The situation of such a monarch, where all her life her command was granted and where others were subordinate, suddenly vulnerable, would be a vexation and torment. It is the human “glitch” in the outlook of the divine right of authority- the affective fragility that though they may be “gods” on earth, monarchs are real human beings.
All persons who have been in love, whether they are conscious of it or not, already know this- the vulnerability they have towards the one they love. Each of us is the awkward 'horse and hound' writer in the movie 'Knotting Hill' before the star of our hearts.
By it’s very nature, it cannot be forced and cannot be commanded because then it is not the free choice of the other- that “he or she chose me”. It is this free choice that gives the power that the love from another person has for people. That they smile when they see you, that they are happy to wake up with you, that they look forward to going home from work to you, that when they have the choice to do anything they want, just being with you is their choice, these actions of loved ones compare with no other action with regard to the effect on us.
When an other of substance- beautiful, intelligent- expresses that she chooses you, and expresses it in the ways described in the paragraph directly above- there is absolutely no substitute that can replace it, nothing that equals it. It is a “winning”, the victory of which in this realm of life, IS “the only thing”.
“She chooses me”- “can it be!?”…..then “colors seem brighter and the grace of god falls on us. "I feel wonderful, because I see, the love light in your eyes..."
To discover that “it’s always been you, all my life" from the "princess" in your eyes has no answer in words that can approach addressing and be worthy of addressing. Such a situation could only be answered through the truth of action of love in return.
"Moreover, the law entered... grace did much more abound."Rom. 5:20
"Conquering Vs. 'Wonderful Tonight'
Twice over the last 25 years in conversations the theory that Love is nothing more than a "conquering" of the other, of the one desired, was presented for consideration. The argument never made sense to me from the standpoint of someone living freely under and in accordance with the protection of Law of the United States constitution and the Declaration of Indepedence, where we are taught that "all men are created equal", and taught to have a "decent regard of the opinion of others".
I countered that such a view was rooted in an aggressive and self-centered view of the self, where what mattered most was the power of the self, rather than two people together. I responded that this view of love was false. I still find this to be the case.
It is in this manner that those that operate from a martial perspective that is based on the false view that "nothing human is trustworthy", and of the individual human being as natural born killer, criminal, depraved, find themselves in a world without real love, but only with the dynamic of "conquering" that serves badly as a substitute- but is vacuous.
Conquering as a principle, the attempt to render the other submissive to personal or physical power and force, really just destroys the chance at really having what is described in Eric Clapton's "wonderful tonight". Without the respect of the other, without the view that others have intrinsic value, and without the free choice of the other choosing you there is no real trust gained in the dynamic of "conquering". The "lubricity"- the shininess- in the attraction to new people that stays and strengthens with respect for the other and real love just fades ever so quickly without it. And so Emerson laments, (post on Cavell and Emerson) because there is no real lasting love or value where "nothing human is trustworthy" is the basis of belief.
When freely and without having to materially and physically threaten, a woman often receives "wonderful tonight", when their guy is just incredibly happy to go to bed and wake up with her, come home to her after work, just because of what it is like to be with her- what more is there really to win.
Structural social and personal compatibility issues are always a factor- occupation, income, education, etc., but once someone falls within respectful parameters, the personal dynamics and the power of being with someone you freely choose, and that freely chooses you is SO much more profound than the falseness of self-centered "conquering".
It is for these reasons, whether an individual believes in the spiritual aspects of Christianity or not, that the words that describe the human, existential truth of real love between two persons that respect each other, and what makes it literally sacred for free people, are expressed and understood profoundly in Corinthians in and through the simple language of demonstration, through acts making the benevolence in one's heart material : Love ("charity", in earlier texts of the King James) is patient and kind, not arrogant or rude, not jealous or boastful, not irritable or resentful.
Eric Clapton- 'Wonderful Tonight'
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F44BcGjIbAA
1) Avril Lavigne- 'Girlfriend'
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=8146371784531658546&ei=8dvTSLX5O4yirAK_1ejGAg&q=avril+lavigne+girlfriend+video&vt=lf&hl=en
LOLOL ;)
2) Counting Crows- 'Accidentally in Love'
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OS0Q98Ytcog
3) Alison Krauss- 'When You say Nothing at All'
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QjsjZWlRVvo
4) Mariah Carey- 'Always be My Baby'
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3QapwJpAe7w
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5) Carrie Underwood- 'Small'
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kUtFEKhtB30&feature=related
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